Write and Burn!

My boys get angry OFTEN!

They are so passionate about everything they do. They set intentions for every act, and when it doesnt turn out the way they had hoped, they are passionately angry!

My 4 yo will scream at the top of his lungs, making his throat hurt and he coughs with a sore throat as the result.

My 6yo shoves it all down inside and closes himself off. He breaks into tears and explodes often with his frustrations.

We have been told that "this is something that all kids do, and eventually they will come to understand reality, and they cant get what they want all the time." We excuse the emotions that are stirring inside of them. So much that we then assume the way they react to situations, is "the way they are and will be".

My kids are different in how they express their frustrations, but they CAN use the same technique to rid of their anger! Whaat?!

A technique that even We, as the adults, use.

1.Write down why you are angry (or sad, or embarrassed) or draw, if you cant wrote (that is what our boys do)

2. Crumble it up in your hands, rip it up, step on it.

3. With an adult, in a controlled area, light the paper on fire and put it in the can (or fire pit) and watch your anger BURN!!

4. Dont forget to spit on it, and hear that sizzling sound! Lol

My boys love watching their anger burn into flames. 🔥 That apparently makes them happy! Which makes me happy, which makes our home happy, which creates awesome memories for our family!

They turn around and run inside with so much happiness, they can move on to better things!

And i can move on, knowing my kids released that anger. And if it comes up again, repeat this again! And remember, it most likely will come up again! Writing and burning is something we do as a family! It is part of our structure.

We may not always go light the fire, but we do tear it up and throw it away, or we watch the shredder have at it. There are many ways. Just get rid of it!

And move on. For the children, need an outlet, or they will grow up blaming, complaining, and hating. And we are trying to create a better future.

Start somewhere.

Dont excuse the anger. Dont tell them that anger is bad. Anger is a REAL emotion, stemming from a Love for something. If we tell kids that anger is bad, and we shouldn't be angry, then they will not understand themselves when anger naturally comes up! Honor that anger and take care of it. I learn more about my kids and what they love when they show anger. Lets lift their spirits!